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Saturday, December 18, 2010

Can a boy and a girl just be "Friends" ?



The other day I discussed this subject with a very dear friend
She told me that she saw the movie "When Harry Met Sally"
and she started to wonder that whether a boy and a girl can truly be only friends?
In the beginning, I answered her immediately that of course that's possible
Later on she said that the movie has made her believe that it's just impossible
Because without any love involved in the relationship, it just cant last that long
And the kind of love is not as simple as we thought

After hearing a few examples, I started to think that whether she is right?
So I gave her an example to prove that she was wrong
I said that there is a guy who is really a close friend of mine
and I am so sure that I don't like him in that way, not at all
But I cant prove that he didn't once feel in that way so it cant count

I didn't want to agree with her about this idea
So I kept thinking whether I have an real good example to tell
In the end, I kinda gave up and start to believe that maybe she is right

When I looked back on the relationship I have been through 
I kinda found out that if the so-called love doesn't exist between a different gender,the relationship might just can't last that long

But we might find out it can't work to be together as a couple 
and then turn to be best friends instead
It is just an idea that "maybe" a boy and a girl cant be so close for so long
without having any special feeling in between
At least one of them might have a crush on the other at some point in the relationship, and later on found out it cant work so they stick with being friends

Though I kinda believe in this idea now, still I am eager to find one to break the rule

-Is there any exception? or You are the exception?


12 comments:

  1. Why shouldn’t they be able to be friends only?

    If the friendship can’t last in the long run without some kind of love, how about gay people then? Would a lesbian not be able to have a friendship only with other girls? How about family like brothers and sisters? Guess it depends on how one defines love. Most kids love their parents, like parents love their kids. If you wonder why or how there can be friendships only between different genders, you might as well ask what makes friendships between people of the same gender? If boys and girls can’t be friends without at least one of them having feelings for the other, it’s the same as saying that person can’t look at anyone of the opposite sex without wanting to get involved with all of them.
    So yes, boys and girls can be friends only. And if your friend doesn't believe in that i feel sorry for her;-)

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  2. hahaha
    do you really want to object to everything that my friends said ? :P LOL
    it is just a kind of thought....
    I know you can always find out a way to stand on the opposite side :P
    LOL

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  3. Haha not necessarily, not my fault if your friends are wrong:P
    You asked if they could be friends only and I gave my point of view… Your just dissatisfied that I’m always right, my love:P

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  4. hahahaha yeah, Right !!!
    You will Always be right IN YOUR DREAM :P
    but I still love you... dont feel bad :P

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  5. i think the first reason a guy talks to a girl or the other way around is becouse he or she has some interest on the other, wheather is physical or intelectual,one of them feels attracted, then they get to know each other(sometimes) and then if there is something more they go ahed and build a relationship as a couple but if it doesnt work and they´re bouth mature enough to keep in touch they´ll have a friendship, but i trully think that is within our basic instincts to look with eyes of love a perason of the gender we´re attracted to...

    Saludos!!
    Erix

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  6. jaja
    Estoy de acuerdo :)
    gracias

    Saludos!
    Estrella

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  7. Haha thought you said you don’t want to argue with me as I always win? :P
    Erix, I believe your right with the attraction. But then again, how is attraction defined? There are people I feel attracted to in the way that I think they are interesting people I would benefit from talking to, but I wouldn’t want to have a relationship with them.
    I don’t know what the “truth” is. You asked for others opinion and from my point of view girls and boys can be friends only, but I can see others don’t share my view. But okay, I am strange after all:P

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  8. aww come on silly !yeah dont wanna argue but that doesnt mean you always win :P
    I am strange as well you know that :P
    Maybe next time the post should be more objective and not this controversial ?! LOL

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  9. Silly duck -quack quackDecember 22, 2010 at 2:18 AM

    Hahaha not argue then.. constructive discussion? :P And it's fine, it's your blog so ofc it's your point of view... If you didnt give your thought it wouldnt be a blog, would it? ;)

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  10. blablabla you always try to be the good guy
    so I am the bad one on contrary then :(
    awww
    Yeah no argue but more Chinese what about that ?
    LOL

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  11. Hahaha im the good guy and your the bad one? (hope you dont mean as in the bad guy:P)
    Isn't it you who always says bad boy to me? Who's the devil? :P
    Who kept the chinese going?

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  12. Ok I am the bad girl.
    I keep talking in Chinese.
    Maybe you should just leave me coz I am such a bad girl then
    Mr. Angel boy!!! xp

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